Using NLP To Build Trust With Women

By Richard Brus

NLP can assist us to strengthen the quality of our communication skills with women. NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) helps us to understand the differing aspects of neurological behaviour regarding communication. Once you begin to understand these differing aspects of communication it becomes advantageous for you whilst interacting with women. This is why NLP has been associated with seduction.

Seduction is simply utilizing the most effective means to communicate our desires and intentions. The more effectively we communicate, the greater the possibility of a woman harmonizing and aligning herself with our intent.

This is the reason that seduction is enhanced by NLP. When a man can swiftly access the true meaning within a woman's communications he becomes capable of changing the results of an interaction.

When people communicate they use a particular type of representational system. There are four types of systems and people primarily communicate through the lens of their personal hierarchy. The four systems are; visual, audio, kinesthetic (touch), and olfactory (smell and taste). By communicating with someone using their representational system a person is able to build rapport much faster.

Someone who is operating through the lens of a visual system will often communicate using terminology associated with vision. A typical example might be, "Try to picture what I'm saying here. As soon as you can envision what I mean you'll probably change your view point. Then you'll be able to see what I mean"

With a little practice it can become simple for you to adopt the same representational system in your conversational dynamics as the woman you are flirting with. It gives the woman the impression that you just seem to be able to speak her language.

A woman who uses an audio representational system would often use statements such as, "I just like the sound of it. I knew it was a good idea as soon as I heard it so immediately I tuned in. It was like music to my ears"

If a woman is adopting the kinaesthetic representational system as her primary mode of communication she's all about touch and sensations associated with it. Her sentences would sound similar to this, "As soon as I touched on the topic I could tell that he didn't feel comfortable talking about it. I just wanted to make him feel better but he seemed hurt and never warmed to the idea of discussing it"

The use of the olfactory system as a representational system hierarchy is quiet rare as most people are visual, kinesthetic or audio. An olfactory example is, "It was a really bitter and cold day but the way he thought about bringing a jumper along for me was really tastefully done"

Now that you're aware of how the different systems operate you'll be able to easily pick up on what system a woman is primarily using. You can then use that system to communicate with her much more effectively. Below is an example of a communication breakdown on a very subliminal level.

If a woman was communicating with you and she said, "I like the look of that place and I can picture myself going there someday", she would be classified as a 'visual'. If a man was to respond using the 'audio' system with something like, "That does sound good. It's got a good vibe and it seems nice and peaceful like you could just tune out. I hear you and its quiet a good idea, I must say"

Although the man is agreeing with the woman in the above example, to her it still seems like he is speaking a different language. It will rub her the wrong way at a subconscious level and she won't feel totally connected to him. However, if the man responded with, "I can see what you mean, that does look good. I too could definitely visualize myself going there", the outcome would be a lot different and the woman would be more at ease around the man.

When a man can easily identify the woman's preferred representational system and is able to utilize the same system, it's natural for the woman to feel more comfortable around the man. It can become easy with a little practice and it's always an advantage to have this embedded within your conversational dynamics. - 32509

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